Plain and simple. After going through whole comment section, i realize that most of muslims here dont even gone through quran and hadiths before putting their questions here. I call that rape. I cannot stress that enough- a mans mind is what matters. Thats what life is. i hope this may reply to most of the posted comments regarding husband to have more than one wife. But there are no ex children. Just make sure you know yours before getting involved with someone and be honest and to show your intentions. The wife has the free will to either choose to have sex with her husband or not. Brothers, marriage involves two people. This is happening now to me, in the beggining of my marriage, im married for 3 months and we feel we dont understand. he will not be able to stay with out her. Going for Second Marriage: Do I Need Wifes Permission? If a man takes a second wife through lust, this goes against Islamic teaching. Our words can be deleted from here but not from THERE. He is not interested in physical affection anymore. dis is remainder to our dear sister, jst vice-vasa may ALLAH c us tru.tanx, InSha Allah. If you cant except that get ready to be disappointed. There are several other reasons, why Islam has permitted limited polygyny, but it is mainly to protect the modesty of women. Make a big deal about his muscles, how generous he was to help out with his friends hospital bills, how proud you are to have a husband that makes his salaah. - Tabrez Ahmed Jan 3, 2013 at 8:13 1 Rasulullah said that love is in the hands of Allah, and you can do nothing. And dont be so quick to nag him about the things he doesnt do right. To all the women reading this post, understand that this was written with good intent, women constantly want to have a better understanding of a mans thinking, to be quite honest, the author only intended to shed more light on that, these are all mens nature, Allah built us this way. He Wants To Have Sex More Often Only patience, repect and hard work from both spouses on mutual basis are few of the qualities that can make the marriage work. Hi,I came across this when googling about Islamic views on male fantasies.I have been married for the last 8 years and realised my husband not only think about other women (which you seem to agree that most men do,well most straight men at least) but what is recommended that I do should I realise that not only does my husband think about other women,he thinks about having sex with them as well.I find it truly disturbing and upsetting not to mention disrespectful but he seemed to be forcing me to accept this is what it really is.I am truly lost.Please advise. For example even your own children 2,3,4 tell me can you give them all the same attention love money this that even if you really wanted to its impossible. I cant love him and give him what he wants. form a relationship with a non-mahram man. He Wants To Have Sex More Often. I would like to adress the author regarding 4th point. Doesnt mean we are gonna fuck them. Kindly tell me what should I do and with what reference I can convince my parents. women are not respect giving machines. Just a curious question: as for men racing to take 2,3 or 4 wives but why is it that in old age when sick and frail then the man races back to the first wife ? Get it together men. not want to and he still goes ahead with it? Or why is polygamy allowed in Islam? Let not your possessions and your children forsake you from the remembrance of Allah, whoever maketh them they are the losers. (Verse 63: 9). Western culture encourages husbands and wives to talk to each other and discuss things. I could not find the name of the author for this article. Many people are under the misconception that it is compulsory for a Muslim man to marry more than one wife. I am a woman in my 30s with 1 child. Many of the schools of thought also require a husband to fulfill his wifes sexual needs and this is not at all ruled out by this Hadith which I think some people feel it may be. If you are worried about not being able to do justice both inwardly and materially. I would suggest acknowledging the layers of your relationship with him and the in-laws to have a better sense of how to orient your discussions. We're best friends who can talk about anything with each other. If you think your husband is brave, noble, handsome, strong, TELL HIM. Quran (33:36) It is not fitting for a Believer, man or woman, when a matter has been decided by Allah and His Messenger to have any option about their decision.. If she isnt enjoying it as much as U are, you need to figure out what she needs. (Narrated by Muslim). You said it !! But opting out of some of these cookies may affect your browsing experience. Glad there are respectable men who actually follow the true Islam. honestly if he just cant, he cant. Good morning If this evil practice is stopped, then India too will have more females as compared to males. The future marriage will be a happy one. 2 If a woman accepts that and treats her husband and the This is a great article about men and how to keep your husband happy but why is there never any mention of how to keep a woman happy and what a man can do for a woman? ALLAH knows about us more then we know our on self. No sister, theres no proof of any such against the man. Dont keep threatening him with words, you need to show you mean it and do it. Lastly, make sincere dua that Allah SWT blesses you with someone who will love, respect and be a good role model for you and this is the best outcome inshaAllah. How many of us men are amirs or princes living a lavish lifestyle. A good wife is pressures, a husband sometime forgets what his got. STOP BEING SELFISH LADIES.HELP UR MUSLIMS SISTERS TO HV DIGNITY N PRIDE IM A MARRIED WOMANI WOULD ALLOW MY HUSBAND TO REMARRY IF HE DOES THAT WITH A SOLID REASON WHICH CONNECTED TO ALLAHS WILL.ILL MAKE SURE HE WOULD FOLLOW THE RULES N REGULATION IN A POLYGAMYESPECIALLY THE NAFKAH PARTWHERE SEXUALLY N FINANCIALLY SUPPORT R CONCERNED..IF NOT I WOULD SEE THE KADHI TO CLAIM MY RIGHT He loses his job and the money gets tight. To put him back on track, just reduce your level of love to the minimum level which is your duty, and he will do everything to get you and that extra love and care back I dont mean sex only, by Love. Sharing my husband with another woman. does that mean she would be cursed all night. Your comment shows your personal desire overpowering the Law of Allah. This is not the case with all the men.. we are not chicks of the same hen. This is the one who is expected to be fair and just, and to fulfil duties and obligations. Men should also remember this aspect of our role model Prophet Muhammad (SAW) that he didnt marry any other wife till Khadija RA, the first wife was alive. You have all the right to maintain your self respect and If he still marries another woman without your consent he is destroying your self respect. It is up to the couple. He says that he doesnt want them cause they dont have respect for themselves. Wish we could all just treat each other with respect and be honest/sincere with each other, instead of playing games and lying. this guy is focusing on materialistic things to show love, he is so confused. I am happy I have a good understanding of Islam that I worship Allah. Any true Muslim woman that follows the Quran and not her husbands list of expectations would know how to treat her husband, a stupid list like this is not even necessary. Must be wise in facing the jealousy of women. Earlier, there was no restriction even on Hindu men with respect to the number of wives allowed. dont thomp your thinking on all men! I have read that this contract is not allowed in Islam. 5. Hiding passwords only mean his hiding worse things P.S Please keep open minds, do not try to scare one another with threats of you nearly left islam with your words. Bottom line is this the wife was respectful to him. Wow heres what women expect men to be like. We do not know of any saheeh evidence which refers to the People want things their way with other people so will only use that part of Islam that suits them. So its incumbent on the husband to be kind to his wife, discuss the matter with her in a gentle and pleasant manner, and this should be coupled with spending whatever money may be necessary in order to gain her acceptance of the situation. Similarly, its unfair for men to expect their wives to behave like Aisha (RA) and his other wives (RA) did. And I totally I agree with muslimah. He isnt a mind reader. So if anyone is seriously thinking about polygamy they better be up for the job. 2. Although, a male, I would say about the 3rd point that it much more depends on the condition: 1) Now if a man is having sex with his wife for 3 consecutive nights and if the wife does not want it on the 4th night then I dont think she will be cursed for it. Good question. God would not be ok with this garbage. go back to the initial thesis statement ( make sure you know what the issue really was, read the answer again and if you still dont know, sit with your husband and make sure you both understand what the question and answer were talking about. but maybe you need to coax the poor little guy back into life, remember that little number he used to drive you crazy about all those years ago. (this is all the Islamic opinion and Im simpy stating it from all schools of thought in Islam). Sex hormones are released in the adult body every day. Yeah so what if a we chooses to aim higher at least we dont sit on our back sides everyday and live off JSA every week. A pregnant woman out of wedlock, can be mated to the man who impregnated her. Not pretty enough. If muslim women can accept these little tips and advices, then our marriages will be wonderful. Please guide me in islamic way, I feel for you, you seem to have loved this guy and he seemed to be using you these are selfih man, and simple women who dont stand up for themselves. Imaan will give you the strength you need to overcome the problems in your life and deal with things you are unhappy with. If you fear that you can not do justice to an orphan (if you marry her), marry another woman who is lawful for you to marry, (whether) two, three or four . (Verse 4: 3). I have 5 years old boy child. Bukhari and Muslim. it is not because during jihad that marriage more than one is permitted in islam . Then he came to him a second time, and he forbade it. I appreciate your responses! As per my perception this article is for people who understands it or try to, leaving arrogance behind far away. he wants to marry me but he said what if there was a 2nd one? The Law of Allah(swt) is complete in every aspect. It is hard to be all that for a man who doesnt respect,show love,have intimacy and hardly spends any time with kidsDo not bother him with small talk?what is that? I know someone who says he loves his wife and yet wants to get married again! However, he would have failed to give her own right, and fulfilling the right of a muslim is an obligation, as such, he would have committed a sin. well said KAY i totally agree with you. The hadith regarding this matter says fair treatment. Women feel the same way, have a bit of respect. His excuse that he needed someone to look after his parents is interesting, to say the least. Made us cook only traditional food. Required fields are marked *. You have the right to your happiness and to be treated with respect. I have read it myself. So, a lot of Muslim men and women go through their marriages with very little communication and never really knowing what the other person is thinking. Unbelievable!!! For some women, polygamy is a deal breaker no matter. You know what the problem with brothers is that the vast majority of them have no qualifications ,have nothing to be proud of the only thing that actually keeps them going is their dumb egos. In no event shall AboutIslam, its counselors or employees be held liable for any damages that may arise from your decision in the use of our services. but my husband love me also, he told me that he will not leave me. But if he does not do it purposely then he wont get sins. It is never written anywhere where a woman commands her husband. And we do need your support.And its very troubling to be married to a woman who may not be around when the going gets tough.If you are constantly threatening divorce or separation or Khula (Islamic divorce initiated by the wife), you can expect your marriage to fizzle out very quickly. the guy has duty to keeping his wife well comforted before he even thinks selfishly about his own satisfaction. It is narrated from Imm as-diq (as): Three ladies went to the Prophet (S) to complain. I am American, a Native American or referred to as a Red Indian in countries such as India. Ofcourse not. doing something that is haraam, so how can he pray istikhaarah and claim This will add to your familial kinship relationship. Did your family find out details on him before marrying you? The Quran says only only only only if you can make justice between them. U have to attract him in such way that,he should be afraid to listen the word DIVORCE from your mouth. All of these are virtues and standards of character in Islam. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Other. With regard to your request for a duaa, I ask Allaah, the Most High, the Almighty, by His grace and favour, to make goodness easy for you and to ward off all evil from you, and to continue to bless you and your family with stability and love, and to keep you and your husband and children safe, and to ward off from you the whispers of the shaytaan and his making falsehood attractive. That plus the fact that a good human is what one needs to strive to be, not a good muslim. @mr. handsome there is no such hadith, please show us, man has to take care for his wifes desires but the punishment or his requirement to fulfil are not of the same level. It was only in 1954, when the Hindu Marriage Act was passed that it became illegal for a Hindu to have more than one wife. Ishmael and I met in 2018 on Muzmatch, a dating app for Muslims. or another wife. I managed to hang on to my husband but I didnt know that our time was running out. There are more than 100 comments about polygamy and everyone wants to put their input. . I am a woman but I know men very good . Men cannot even manage one woman fairly, how would he be able to multi task with two women who have two separate needs and expectations. At this point, the man has destroyed his relationship with . Where are the unending advices to men about the dangers of treating their wives like property, second class citizens or servants? Though Islam permits man to have more than a wife, it stipulates that certain conditions are to be met in this regard, for Islams main focus is on building a stable marital life. And if she isnt IN love with U it doesnt mean she cant be commited and faithful. He have hurt so much and I alway sad all I think what do I do wrong he cheat on me so much. Yes in some Muslim countries men are more tight- lipped but why do you think that is? This article is a joke. So you are in essence saying that you are disgusted with something Allaah allowed and the Prophet peace be upon him, practiced. God bless you. Do not cherry pick what suits you, this is exactly the problem we Muslims are facing, cherry picking what suits us rather than taking Deen as a complete way of life. obey ALLAH and ur husband will love you. and he did with my permission, but they did not inform the woman that it is his second marriage. You, as men should be fair to the first wife and the second wife you will marry later. Mohammad made the rules for his time for some purpose. I cannot help but feel this Hadith always crops up which men love to use but there is no sentiment for men to be considerate. But Allah is forgiving and merciful. Your right to them is that they do not allow anyone you hate to step on your stretch. What, he gave her Mahr money, so now he owns her and shes his sex slave? Polygamy is a difficult situation to address. I have to stay with my parents. coz its natural, most people are inclined toward people who show concern, respect etc over them. full, without reckoning yeah sure , hell like that. Life was very difficult for me and my children and I wasnt young anymore. I have to agree with you 100% on that. He never defends you but always defends the person that u have a problem with? yes we look 4 men who r followers of the great nabi not the followers of devil n their so called peer preasures . Why? World female population is more than male population In the USA, women outnumber men by 7.8 million. i dream of being able to respect my husband but i must admit over the years i feel that respect i had for him is declining Ive stayed loyal despite our circumstances. I feel bad for my family, I could have done so much to them, but unable for my husband and he doesnt ever act he is happy. Sharing his love, his smiles, his jokes with a woman other than myself. After all I have been to him. Its simple. As far as the sex thing.the qaran does tell us this.hopefully our husbands are understanding and considerate of our feelings.but it is our obligation ..Overallthis article was very usefuland it helped me understand my husband a little moreas I am a revert from a western culture and my husband is north african.my biggest concern in our marriage has been that he doesnt talk and share with me as much I felt he should. Most of comments are pointing to second marriage and bla bla. Thanks a lot for your question and the interest you show in having a clearer view of the true teachings of Islam. thats the only thing a woman cant take. I love my husband so deeply and wholeheartedly that i can never even imagine myself being attracted to another man. and one who does an atom weight of good will see it. More men die due to accidents and diseases than women. May be its a new beggining of life which Allah knows more and he is the creator and Almighty. His answer he said, will be dependent on her acceptance of Polygamy. relationships such as zina, and sometimes it results in permissible Why is that what mean want and/or need is some kind of standard and women should just be satisfied with whatever emotional crumbs her husband tosses? However, I could be a second wife, no problem but I could NOT EVER be a first wife whose husband then took a second. As described in one of the verses of the Quran below. Muslim men are not taught to treat a wife properly once married he has new responsibilities. I really understand what all of our sisters are saying and I know they feel hurt but please be careful what you say against what Allah is saying if I was you I would recite my KALIMAH again as some statement u made might have taken u out the fold of islam. I am really impressed. India is one of the few countries, along with the other neighbouring countries, in which the female population is less than the male population. Try to reconcile all the lack of trust or resentment. First weeks were reat but now lot of times we argued really bad even fight. To the person who wrote this artical.. (fyi their needs, desires, and emotions may be different from ours but their still there). It just means hes human.It is very important that you understand this. Bespectacled before it was cool, I. I could not accept that and I vehemently made my stance clear to him. Now coming to the original question, why is a man allowed to have more than one wife? Dear questioner! this young man and has made him attractive to you so that he may achieve Therefore polygyny is not a rule but an exception. But the permission of plural marriage is given in the context of protecting widows, as they need to be taken care of. Below is an explanation of one of the verses of the Quran. Right to Receive Financial Support. and she should realize that her husbands marrying another woman is The first thing to do is seek sincere forgiveness from Allah because there is NO blessing in a marriage that starts off from haram. we commited mistakes..i am asking allah to forgive everythingis wat he doing is right in islam?? (Verse 4: 129), 4. everyone mush read this article. His age 31. sex and bearing children are the biggest rights of men in marriage. This article is informative. Just like if a woman wants a man to love her, she needs to figure out how to show respect even when she doesnt respect him, and figure out how to be with him at night even when shes not feeling attracted to him, just like this, if a man wants his woman to respect him, then he needs to figure out how to talk to her and show his emotions instead of hiding behind the all-too-easy Argh, Im a man, talking is too hard for me screen. Wife, lover, mother, doctor, housekeeper. I loved it all. Noor was recently married. I am an unmarried dude and may join the marriage club soon enough. according to islam wat is the solution for this? Most men wont admit it, but we do need women. When he returns home, give him some time to relax and settle before you throw all your daily small issues at him. Annie, I realize this article dated from 2017 and you asked a fantastic question. Islam Q&A, You can ask your question on the website via this link: https://islamqa.info/en/ask, Password should contain small, capital letter and at least 8 characters long, Log in i`m not able to give my second husband a baby. You should not even be looking at other woman mate! since its Allahs will and polygamy is halal. Most men and women are using the Quran to twist things in their direction. I pray to Allah Taaalaa that he gives us all the understanding of how a true Muslim should behave and that he forgives us all for all the wrong we have done in life, allowing us to die with strong Imaan and in the end enter us into Jannatul Firdaus. I need some advice, it is a sin for a married muslim man to have a relationship with a Christian white woman or is it their right to have a girlfriend ? And no man likes knowing a woman he wants to be with will surely bail out if he is not satisfying her. May Allah bless you both. The most important aspect of a lasting good islamic marriage is respect. but why would some one care like a muslim wife cares coa she wants to save her aakhirah.. hey sista. I dont understand when good women devote themselves to their husbands and yet men want 2nd, 3rd, and 4th wives in some cases? It is possible that your husband was pressured by his parents to marry. anyone but those whose family relationships are disrupted and disputes and We do not live in fairy tales, our husbands are not prince charming, their real men with real needs, desires, and yes even emotions just like us. 2) It clearly says if the man sleeps angry, then she will be cursed. May Allah guide us all to the right path.Ameen. (ii) Mustahab i.e recommended or encouraged, (iv) Makruh i.e not recommended or discouraged. You dont understand it fully and you really should not say such things because you are actually saying that you ar disgusted with Allah! Everything You Need To Know About Having a Wali in Marriage, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jf6B4xk3kcI, 7 Things Your Muslim Husband Wont Tell You, Preventing the Girlfriend-Boyfriend Relationship. Unwanted sex! Same here so many times my time has been wasted because of liars. Al-Tirmidhi (2399) narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the The moment you hide it from your first wife means you lack the genuine reason. How can he insult me by marrying another woman as if I am not good enough? Just because man is ALLOWED to take a second wife, doesnt mean he should. I need to write and submit a good article somewhere about this topic. And its so true toom some times I feel un loved by my husband and I always feel he doesnt share things with me. @ sara thinking of you before your husband (will marry or married) you is Haraam? Its true men think about other women, but that doesnt make it right. To explain further: if a Muslim woman prays istikhaarah about The difference is of course in the idea that what we do is more for the sake of Allah Taaalaa than for ourselves. 3.If this young man were to get Islam even make a wife to ask for permission from her husband if she wants to fast (not Ramadhan fasting). Things Ur Muslim Wife May Not Tell U. You said No one should be forced Wow. good care of her. He wants me to marry him and be his 2nd wife. Oh Dear how I understand you, my ex boyfriend, we were together for 5 years and hes Muslim. The woman may be ill and cannot meet her husband's sexual needs. As Mohammed Mynul Islam said, and he (the husband) spends the night angry.. It is not obligatory for the husband, if he wants to take a second wife, to have the consent of his first wife, but it is good manners and kindness to deal with her in such a manner that will minimize the hurt feelings such thing might produce. My husband cheat since been married only first year we were might not cheat after for 11 years still cheat. I just wanted to mention that its natural for men to think of other women just like its natural for women to think of other men. There is no Hadith about men please note. O ye who believe! It would be difficult for my husband to provide for multiple wives, both financially and emotionally. Answering your question, Sheikh M. S. Al-Munajjid, a prominent Saudi Muslim lecturer and author, states: So when your husband buys you a gift, accept it, rejoice over it, thank him profusely, and use it as often as possible. Every part of his life was documented. It goes so far in Islam that if a woman wishes to perform an optional fasting (not the ones in Ramadan) she NEEDS to have her husbands permission! Stop being selfish. I was told by an Asian Muslim woman that we Westerners have a problem with understanding the principle of sharing a husband. I would NEVER allow my husband to marry another woman. yeah we had a fight recently in which he was about to run his car over me.my knee was slightly swollen n pain.i cried a lot that day.its really painful cause we had loved marriage.thought would be happy.but know. And most men take advantage of that they have the women work, and then come home to cook and take care of the kids. You may think leaving is the hardest thing to do (it takes courage) but have faith Allah will guide you. Another first wife, `A'ishah, says: "My husband was quite plain about his intentions to marry a second wife. that one thing man need just like food and drink. Thanks for advice. Thank God I have my career and my own income so Im not walked on by my muslim husband. IF you believe in Islam and Allah you will have to believe that if a woman refuses to have intercourse with her husband, then she is sinning. Alhomdolillah he is very soft and understanding if I dont want to be intimate but other men are not so kind. Your husband needs to know that youre going to be by his side if: You should be loyal to your husband before everything else except Allah and His Messenger (pbuh). Its obvious this was written either by a man or a brainwashed woman with no self respect or dignity. There is no hadith which states that the husband must ask his wives premssion. ALLAH know everything but we dont. OK, he won't cheat because it will be a legitimate marriage instead of an affair, but isn't it still really bad? 30 January, 2022 Q I am a converted Muslim from the UK. patience out of faith and in the hope of reward will have a reward like that It does not store any personal data. married to him. other wife well, she will have the reward of al-muhsineen. There was an immediate connection between us. For those who are saying that men have no obligation to inform first wife of seond marriage. Judge by what is right according to Quran and you will see how Allah subhanahu wa taala will sent double fold of blessings your way.. Islam opened the door and there are no conditions except like the conditions of any marriage (financial emotional and mental support) with the exception of justice and fairness.. Thats more than a little harsh (not to mention used in the wrong context). And about this respect issue, nothing comes by itself. 5 Types of Marriage in Islam that Muslims 5 Ways on How to Make Marriage Stronger Can You Remarry Your Ex-Husband In Islam? My husband never ever thinks or talks to other women. The second rule if you want to do a second marriage in Islam, make sure you as a man can do justice. 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