i know my husband cheated but he won't admit it

I have to show every sign of happiness towards him or he will try to make me feel bad. One night after returning from taking care of my mother, we got home , and he asked me to do something. When were telling the truth and are with people we like, admire, and trust, we face our belly buttons towards them. It kills me, it pains me.but i cant continue to wallow in this pain of waiting for the man i felll in love with 19 years ago to come back to me. All these comments are heart breaking. He was the perfect husband and dad, caring, helped around the house, gave me surprises every know and then, that is why I never suspected it, and now I am totally confused and do not know if i should give him an opportunity thinking he will never do it again. Nou def shouldnt believe himonce a cheater, always a cheater in most cases. And Im helping him start college soon and Im totally afraid. He tells me that he loves me and kisses me more often. https://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/how-to-cope-with-failed-relationship/, Ok so me and my husband have been married for a year we have lived together for 10 years and have 7 beautiful children together. It sounds like you caught your husband red-handed! The problem I have is that he says he can tell if I have sex with someone else. i also foung his cell phone with very graffic details from the girl & ny husband. YOUR WELL BEING DOES NOT DEPEND ON HIM NOR ANYONE ELSE FOR THAT MATTER!! Try googling how to put a tracker on my husbands phone and plenty of info pops up. Please help. My husband has been loving all this time except for some occassional fights u know. This is the point where we start a steady decline. I stayed home with the kids when they were babies, planned dates, read marriage books, self help books, planned weekend getaways, romantic suppers and weekends for the just the 2 of us. You will! Meaning the affection/love that I deserve. He thinks if you met someone 30 years ago, yet you havent really had a relationship in over 20, that still counts as something meaningful. There was another married couple, her, and another female who was single. Then I asked him why he went (when before when he went, acted as if he was soooo bored, he even called me from his cell). He runs his own company, and recently hired a bookkeeper at his company, I once saw a whatsapp message from the new lady (bookkeeper) to him with red lips (a kiss emoticon) when I confronted him about it, he said she again, sent another message apologizing about the mistake, that the message wasnt meant for him, I believed him. Other than thst I didnt witness any other interaction between them. Why are you asking me? At that point she will give you the reasons for her suspicions. 12 hiurs later I found an unfiltered message on Facebook from his mistress. I forgave my dad, I love my dad, I understand why my dad was the way he was. Youre stronger than you know! I wasnt sure of the details but I know he deletes all texts and calls on his phone, hes told me so advice for wives, check the phone bills if you feel the need to if you see a phone number you dont recognize that is being called or text constantly, times you arent with them- thats suspicious, do some research on that. I just watched The Other Woman and somehow found it comforting? He has been very controlling and there have been other issues, but never did I think he would have another relationship. Apr 21, 2013. And needless to say it didnt work. So I sat in my vehicle for about 10 more minutes and then I called him. I felt that she saw herself that way. He also started putting a lot of blame on me for the way he felt..and I knew we did have problems so assumed he swas depressed and maybe if we got marriage consoling things would get solved. Stand up for yourself and have pride. And I left . Hell keep cheating and lying until he decides to leave you. What happened to the good guys like before? We are physically and emotionally distant recently and really the only reason I stay here is because of the kids and because of the money it would take to bring us home. Where do I get the phone tracker? I was shocked in midnight that men drove 40km to the village (farm) i just heard come out of the house iam outside. I found that so disrespectful. Say hes no hooked, and it doesnt appear that he is craving the drug, but 2 things scare me. I deserve an explanation. My husband password protects his phone (meaing you cant make calls, see texts or emails without a password). He would only call her at night while he was at work or during the day when I wasnt home. (Gross, I know.). I cant eat, I cant sleep(he lets her in the house while Im sleeping) Ive set up cameras around me and caught her leaning over me cutting my hair and have caught him doing the same. Hello ladies I have been in my relationship for 6 yrs now and have two kids. What should I do? His kids love me, i do everything for all of them. Some are free, some cost money. All the text from her were gone, and she worked for him. He has a drug addiction and I kicked him out well e spent all his time here with us. I asked him if he wanted an open relationsihp and he said NO! None of you are crazy, nor do you deserve to be subjected to this horrible betrayalstop taking it as a way to measure your worth! It helps to know your husband well. I found out about my boyfriends affair with another woman through his cellphone. Never feel weak going to your doctor as youre not coping, simply sit down and explain what has happened with your husband and marriage. I do not know what your story is or how I could even help you. That man came just to hit.kick, boxing me in front of shopping centre. Hi, I found out that my husband was having an emotional affair with his college fling. But my trust for him is gone, and so is the beautiful relationship I thought we had. Has had several FB conversations that made my jaw drop, telling one of his old friends (female) I am crazy, hes stuck, hes stuck between a rock and a hard place because of our child, he would prefer a single life right now, I dont love him the same. After a year we had a car accident together and hospitalised and you know what his visitor majority was girls every day i was told by the girl that use to stay with him in the house that is only ladies come visisting him. Thank you for sharing how to know if your husband is cheating. I never confronted him about that one. Now he and I are back together, and they are still friends, and she talks about the other guys she dates, and I could care less. But I started having that gut feeling of cheating(Nov.2010), even though hed promise & swear theres nothing going on, hed even ask me what proof did I have or where was this all coming from! Tell me what three things you most want to see happen with your husband and your life. The very first couple of weeks that we were together. Marriage success is build on trust. I called her told her who I was and told her to leaves husband alone. I have been dating someone for 7 months. He tells me that its not professional and theres other ways. Thank you for being here, and sharing your situation. We texted frequently enough. and he gets mad when i accuse him of cheating with her. This bothered me for the facr she was our neighbor. You know he thinks youre unattractive and worthless compared to his lover .hes told you that. Hmm..that is obviously girly movie.. We get back home. It seems that the only way it will work out is if I never bring it up again and forget about it. I have been getting anonimous emails about my husband seeing another woman since last year. While we were walking together there was this blond haired women that locked eyes with him, he then let go of my hand and stared back at her and walked ahead of me. You always have known that in some form or another, he cheated but you stayed. I know what he did but he wont ever admit to it so why dont you do us both a huge favor and message me on facebook. Im constantly thinking he is cheating almost every minutethere was a time when a condom was missing and I called him out on it and he brought it back saying he was embarressed to tell me that he sometimes m****ates in the car while he watches on his phone or videos and doesnt want to make a mess on his pants and go into work. Im not married but I have a baby with my live in partner. I have never been so sad in my life. I still dont know if Im getting the whole truth. He gets very defensive about her and didnt remove her until I did for him. i confronted him and telling me he was about to tell me but i could not listen. The key to solving is understanding men on a much deeper emotional level. Ive gone through fertility treatments and that is how Ive been able to get pregnant. The advice i wil give to you guys stay focus and think deep in your heart what you want if you want to suffer for the rest of your live or you want trust, bright future ahead. I think it my be a good idea for you to meet her. Completely. You are a survivor, and you have the power to get through this and become a stronger, smarter, healthier woman. I dont mean to offend anyone, and I am not speaking from a place of moral judgement. Really? I plan on divorcing him and wont waste any more time with someone who has no respect for our marriage. He knew I wasnt lying as he researched himself and told me the truth. Its just something Ive observed frequently in many people Ive known. He swears they only had a friendship and is not nor ever was attracted to her sexually. Of course I got upset & he said that Im over reacting. but im learning to be happy with myself, my 2 boys and have good friends :) if yall hear me! Im prepared to carry the burden of this decision ..my kids are young and for the most part we actually get along very well. So Monday I got off early from work and checked the on line account and saw that there had been a text sent that morning. If you thinkyour husband is cheating on you, you may be picking up on subconscious clues that he is having an affair. To all you loyal wives out there, if you have any suspicion, follow your instinct. Can you live with him as he cheats on you? Oh theres more way more. Huge fight on Christmas Eve, and I stupidly told him to leave. Those issues were merely symptoms. It never happened. He already walked out if hes not there for you; how many more years do you want to waste, go running and you will be much happier, how much more are you willing to take a big part of your life is gone for years cause he hasnt been there. I had checked his phone log and found a call to her house 15 minutes long and once again I confronted her and him with it and they claimed it was all business. So I have NEVER suspected my husband of cheating til recently. Your marriage is one of the most important things in your life, and looking for signs your husband is cheating is devastating. buy a gps on ebay .. $40 and the monthly subscription to track it is only $10 .. and/or put a sound activated recorder in his vehicle .. you are married so youre allowed. then when i was pregnant with his child i left an answerphone message on her moby saying not to send x on text i find it offensive ( bareing in mind my fiance knew my ex husband had an affair with a woman at work so i felt fragile . I tried calling him several times after the concert should have been over. Well she started posting things on her social media about if shes worth anything shes worth anything now, how she wants a movie date and other things which had me feeling like those were directed towards him. I decided to check his cell phone records and when he walked up behind me and asked why was I on our wireless account. I have lost respect for him. There is and was nothing going on between us but a friendshipwell I thought. Than took job out of state and he insisted that i go. Unfortunately my highly polished manners have no way of turning down a lady, and so it begins with the lady in the driving seat. I meet my husband at age 15 our sex life was great, then I became pregnant at age 18 I gained 45 pounds . I realized they were always together and ate lunch together which most of the time I did also. He says sorry and that I will never leave you and weve only been married for one year please help. This is part of a behavior pattern. He had taken her on a vacation when I thought he was on a golf outing!! I know these arent healthy reasons to stay, but knowing he has Narcisstic Behavior Disorder, makes it easier. I pray for your future for you to have faith, courage, strength, and hope for your future, whatever it may hold. Im still praying and waiting. You can often find solid families forming friendships with other solid families; this is one of the major reasons why America became such a wealthy, powerful nation, because a community is stronger if it has more people with good values. I know that he isnt into romantic talk, but hes told me Im beautiful, and he loves my body, etc. I dont know if your husband is lying about cheating, but there certainly hasnt been alot of honesty about what hes doing. We'd just come back from visiting my parents with our five-year-old son, Jamie. we all deserve to live and be loved. im currently doing a research for my new website on the subject and this was a great article! I told him that i was going to move out. So later also in workig hours he gets a text from his brother, I open it and its more pornographic videos. He told me he doesnt want that stuff around his child and i told him to stop drinking and as soon as i said that he said show me where to sign my rights away and you can go back to flolrida.. then i cry blah blah blah he gets over but i didnt and he is nice to me. Something was different. Look at his email address or his work email address as here you might see booking receipts for hotels or restaurants. He has an addict problem. I feel like if u separate temporarily you guys may rediscover why you fell in love and get back to a healthy, loving, trusting, and respectful relationship. Then why the heck is he looking at her? Then 4 days ago i received our cell phone bill in the mail and we had been charged overage charges due to too many text messages. Forgive him. I was able to be my own detective. When Im at his place I talk with his parents on Skype and have met his friends both from the US and his country. We had one of the worst yelling matches ever! But when new genes are brought into the picture (different partners like a new man or woman from somewhere else). Since then hes been super nice and sweet and my house is always clean. We have a child together and I done know what to do. If you have children, you do not want to show them this as an acceptable way to treat people, or allow yourself to be treated. So, if you are going to forgive him then do it. Either way, you may learn more about their relationship, which will help you move forward. This went on for 7 months. Maybe certain questions ? What is holding you back from walking out of your marriage? My husband and I have been together for 10 years. And he is dismissive lately of me, and impatient. But my mind tells me different. Then, after all these years of emotional and verbal abuse, I finally realized there was a name for someone like him. She called me and we chatted on the phone about it, me crying my eyes out and her telling me itd be okay and he wasnt worth the tears. He chooses to protect his cohorts and hide the truth, swallowing his lies. He said he wanted to reconcile and I told him I didnt know if that was possible . So my story is.. I think you are 100% correct in wanting to end the relationship because you cant trust him. Lately he has been talking to this girl via txt and i see him talking to her but i can never get ahold of his phone before he deleted their conversation. Is there a way to confront him? he keeps saying that my assumption of him having an affair is what has ruined us, but I cannot fathom who in their right mind would work for a year earning nothing, getting nothing for it at all, if there wasnt something else in it for him? date but dont get married. Thank you, Once infidelity and that type of dishonesty occur in a relationship, it is difficult to ever feel secure or fully trust that person again. Also last year I found another conversation with another one of his co workers that he was trying to hangout with ( a girl) and was telling her that he really wants to hangout and he would lie to me and say he is at work or working out. I am sorry this is happening, but you are very young and have your whole life ahead. That is, if I thought he was cheating, he wouldnt bring it up again unless I did. Im now 49. He came back and I thought everything was fine. If your husband hadn't cheated with this woman it would have been another woman. 1) About three months ago, after I got out of the shower, my husband said I was ugly with a towel on my head and demanded I take the towel off immendiately. He said he found out her brother was in the same singing group as my brother back in the 80s and they began to talk more when he came through the line. Or I thought I could change him, or he would change. (Fast forward)We moved together to another place and it still didnt work. He mentioned to them that he was leaving me. So if you do decide to wing it alone for a while keep these important things in mind and if you befriend the opposite sex during the separation consider them nothing more than just a friend. I know he was with other people before we got together and he says she is a stalker but I talked to her and she knew everything about him. cheated while Id be out and about. He lied about bills and got us into a lot of financial difficulty. They never lived together, it was just a fraud. I read this book called Lie Detection Made Easy and then gave some copies to one of my girlfriends that suspected an affair and the information in the book worked! And just before he gets friends with girl number on, hes unfriends this second girl. According to this page. He always denied,Iam really sick and tired his way. I have had suspicion of my husband cheating or trying to so I put a tracker on his phone. I realized later my husband asked me to sign off in his emotional affair. Knowing this my husband hurt me after all the hell Ive been through. Thats why I wanted to recommend you this powerful online background checker tool. He makes up stories, I already know he is lying but he continues doing it thinking I wont find out. Good luck & be safe. Its hard to explain a gut feeling! Am I just totally stupid? That to me is like hes hiding something. I dont know what else to do. and stupid on my part for believing him, But he swears up and down that he would never, has never had any kind of relationship with anyone during our time together. If you want to know if your husband is lying about cheating. Let them make you a hot drink and pour your heart out. But, of course, when she brings these weird behaviors to your attention, you tell her that she has severe psychological problems stemming from her childhood, is insecure, and is the source of your marital problems. First, I wanted to put him and every man like him in his place. I then asked if he knew where they may have gone? Iv been with my partner for. ive told him it makes me uncomfortable but he says n acts as if he doesnt care or tells me i dont trust him. My name is Melissa Ive been with my boyfriend for 15 years I lost my brother and father 2 years ago and me and my boyfriend started to get distant. May you find the right person or people to support you as you journey forward. So, do you want to live with your husband the way he is right now? Dear Jennifer, I feel your pain hugely as I never said no to sex in all our 27 years of marriage. Currently I was told that my wife went up to the super market to go shopping. What made it worse is he called me psychotic and said I had mental problems and I started to believe it. Heres an article that may help you see your marriage and your husband more clearly: https://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/how-do-you-know-if-he-really-loves-you/, Its called How to Know if He Really Loves You..

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